When we get burned doing something for a few times, we stop trying, we stop trying to change, we become reactive instead of proactive. This thinking is called Learned Helplessness.
Learned Helplessness can occur in every area of life (just some examples):
- Wealth , thinking we can’t change our income.
- Health, just accepting our unhealthy eating habits because we think change is impossible.
- Love, staying in a bad relationship instead of searching for someone else.
- Happiness, keeping negative people around us just because we grew up together.
The best way to get out of this trap is by accepting full responsibility for our current situation and becoming proactive at trying to change.
Check every aspect of your life, where have you given up control, instead of taking full responsibility?
I got this lessons from this book.