How to be Fascinating …

Fascinating things/ people do/ are :

  • Provoke strong Emotions
  • Create Advocates
  • Become a cultural shorthand for a set of actions or values
  • Incites Conversations
  • Force the competition to conform to them
  • Are not afraid to challenge status quo

Triggers of Fascination:

  1. Alarm: Provocing a alarming signal in people does
  2. Lust: Talking to the senses. Sex sells.
  3. Trust: The only strategy to build long term commitment to something/ to someone is by establishing trust.
  4. Power: The show of Authority
  5. Prestige: What makes to the product/ person stand above the rest?
  6. Mistique: Sending mixed signals
  7. Vice: We like things that are forbidden, play with that

These are the 7 triggers that acording to the author make us fascinated of something, he recommends to use them wisely and never all at once.

Book on the subject: Fascinate: Your 7 Triggers to Persuasion and Captivation

Habits and how to change them

1. The Cue: This is the trigger that launches you into “zombie mode.” The cue may be something as simple as seeing the first item on your to-do list (time to start next week’s homework!) or seeing a text message from a friend (time to dawdle!). A cue by itself is neither helpful nor harmful. It’s the routine—what we do in reaction to that cue—that matters.

2. The Routine: This is your zombie mode—the routine, habitual response your brain is used to falling into when it receives the cue. Zombie responses can be harmless, useful, or, in the worst case, so destructive that they defy common sense.

3. The Reward: Habits develop and continue because they reward us—give us a dollop of pleasure. Procrastination is an easy habit to develop because the reward—moving your mind’s focus to something more pleasant—happens so quickly. But good habits can also be rewarded. Finding ways to reward good study habits in math and science is vital to escaping procrastination.

4. The Belief: Habits have power because of your belief in them. For example, you might feel that you’ll never be able to change your habit of putting off your studies until late in the day. To change a habit, you’ll need to change your underlying belief.

Hab

How to change:
The only thing I can change:

The Cue: Recognize what launches you into your zombie, procrastination mode. Cues usually fall into one of the following categories: location, time, how you feel, reactions to other people, or something that just happened

 

I got this from the great book: A Mind for Numbers

 

Drive by Dan Pink // Motivation

The most crucial points of the book:
Motivation that come from the outside is never really lasting and effective, real motivation comes from within.
The three elements to true motivation:
1. Autonomy: People need to feel that they have some level of control over their enviroment. Give people a sense of control.
2. Mastery: People need to feel the possibility to improve, if there is no room for improvement no one will strive for it.
3. Purpose: Give people a good “Why” for doing something, frame it in their interests not in yours.

Only if all three elements are satisfied people are really motivated and happy to help you. But never forget, without giving something back no on will be motivated to help you for too long. Make sure to give back.

What the Past can teach us about the future

The following Questions help us to  determine if the past is representative for the future.

  1. Observation: Will the past behaviour continue? How long can it possibly continue?
  2. Explanation: The past can tell us why something happend.
  3. Predictability: From the past we can learn how probable an event really is, how possible is that it will happen again?
  4. Continuation and Change:  What is required to make the past/ present record continue? What forces can change it or cause what we don’t want to happen and is it likely?
  5. Certainty and Consequences: How certain am I? And what the consequences of being right/ wrong?

The past can teach us a lot about the future when we ask the right questions and look at the bigger picture.

“Study the past if you would divine the future” – Confucius